Louis CK, The ‘Fat Girl’ Soliloquy

“You know what the meanest thing you can say to a fat girl is? ‘You’re not fat.'” ¹

Louis CK invites the great Sarah Baker to sum up what so many of us feel and have felt as fat women: that fat women are overlooked, they are rejected, and that love is hard to find.

That Louis CK gave a fat woman 7 minutes to be honest and open and angry on Monday night’s show makes him the boss. Humanity may not, in fact, be doomed.

I’m on board with much of Baker’s character’s speech, but her experience isn’t entirely universal (as no one person’s experience ever is). I dated great people when I was fat. I had a blast. I was out there and sexual and was treated well by fantastic people.

Lest anyone doubt that a fat woman can rock the dating scene:

Thin, I’ve dated hot ² people.
So did the fat Coffey.

Thin, I’ve strolled Main Street with a lover, and they enjoyed every minute of it.
So did the fat Coffey.

Thin, I’ve had a blast living my life, being in my body, and sharing it with people I love.
So did the fat Coffey.

Fat women often don’t get love relationships handed to them on a silver platter like we imagine thin women do. At the same time, the world is positively crawling with beautiful, joyful, loving people who fall flat on their faces in love with fat women every day. I’d like to kiss each and every one of them. ³

So does the fat Coffey.